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Does anyone else have a significant other who isn't vegan? Does it ever cause problems? Even if they acknowledge that your way is "right" is it ever frustrating that they won't actually do anything about it?

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Already do this and they all fucked off. Don't see the point of sugar coating things.

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Original Poster1 point · 15 days ago

people are very fragile. No one really just openly tells the truth every. It's really strange when you think about it.

2 points · 15 days ago

I am an honest/blunt person and I can honestly tell you it would be practically everyone.

Americans can't handle honesty and for the most part refuse to admit their own faults.

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Original Poster2 points · 15 days ago

ain't that the truth

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I broke up with my ex six months ago.

We had been dating for five years, so when she left me for someone else, it came as a real shock. The way she said it was pretty interesting. There was all that pre-breakup politeness about how it's not me, it's her; how I've been great in every way imaginable; about how, had circumstances been different, she would have wanted to be with me till the end. But really, what's the point of saying all that, when it all stands upon the fact that she's leaving me for another guy?

In any case, she left me, and I was depressed to the point of wanting to kill myself. I broke contact with everyone who tried to comfort me. I never went out except for food, and even then, only when it was necessary. It was a surreal experience that way, to drop from absolute happiness into the fucking secluded hellhole that I called my room.

But the question wasn't that I was depressed. I knew life was good, and of course I knew it, I've had it in my hands before, so that was never the question: the question was that everything that was good in life had left me, leaving me whatever else that wasn't.

I can't say I'm much better now. But really, to answer your question, the one good thing, the one last good thing that's stopping me from killing myself is the fact that I still get to think about her. I can't bear the thought of losing even that.

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Original Poster2 points · 15 days ago

what she did to you was awful and because I don't know you I'm going to assume the best of you. Regardless, you deserve so much better than happiness coming from the thought of someone who hurt you. Fall in love with the amazing things about yourself and someday you're going to fall in love with someone who's going to love you more than anything who would never do that to you.

I try to think about it pretty often because I have latent suicidal thoughts still. So realizing how much I would miss is important to healing, I think.

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Original Poster2 points · 16 days ago

me too. thats why i made this post. it's really important to remember every little thing that makes you happy/that youre grateful for.

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skinny love, holocene -bon iver

is this love -is this love

show me what im looking for -carolina liar

give me love -ed sheeran

hero -family of the year

first of all I'm so sorry that happened your story is heartbreaking...

under (obviously) very different circumstances my bf and I broke up for 8 months and during that time we never stopped loving each other but we were both constantly trying to move on. Eventually we stopped trying to kid ourselves and got back together and I honestly don't know where I would be without him. If at this point you're still thinking about the "what ifs" all the time you clearly still want to be with her and you should make it happen. If you really believe that that's the person you want to be with you should do whatever you can to make that happen. Good luck! <3

Original Poster1 point · 16 days ago

Glad to hear you guys went for it. I need to probe my ex some more to see if she wants to try or she is happy with new guy. It’s hard for me to think of how to bring up that conversation without sounding overly jealous or the like. Usually our convos steer clear of us being together since it (was) impossible.

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why do you say "impossible"?

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for my political sci class I'm writing a reflective essay on the book Gender Outlaws. If anyone else has read this and has any additional insight to add I would really appreciate it :)

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tl;dr Me and my BF have been together for three years. We started dating when I was 15 and he was 16. Earlier this year we broke up for some time. During that time we hooked up with other people. We're back together now but because he's the one that broke up with me it's hard for me to deal with the fact that he was with other people. It's just the thought of him choosing other girls over me and every time I think about it it's hard for me to deal with it. I think it's the root of a lot of jealous feelings I have. I get jealous a lot even though I know he would never cheat on me.

How do I move past that?

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3 points · 16 days ago

You hooked up with others during the break and he trusts you now, so it's not like he broke up with you so he could go off and hook up with others. That just happened as you were both kind of feeling out moving on from the relationship which is normal.

When you get jealous, you need to figure out how to self soothe your anxiety if you really trust him. It sounds like you aren't jealous so much as you are insecure that he will just end the relationship again.

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Original Poster2 points · 16 days ago

i do trust him. Thank you this was helpful.

This is one of many reasons why breaks don't work and if you can't get over the fact that he was with someone else when you guys weren't together, then you need to move on.

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Original Poster2 points · 16 days ago

The thing is I love him more than anything and everything else in our relationship is perfect. It's just hard to think about, ya know?

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My boyfriend and I are both 19 and we've been together for three years. We broke up for a while earlier this year and during that time we were with other people. He initiated getting back together but he's also the one that ended things and sometimes it's hard to deal with the fact that he chose to be with other people instead of me. I get really jealous a lot and even though I know he'd never cheat but I think it may have something to do with that.

How do I move past that?

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